We all know the saying let it go but not many of us discuss just how difficult it can be. Releasing may seem like losing power but its not. Releasing may seem like losing power, yielding part of an identity, or even betraying some part of our narrative. But eventually, this ends up costing too much to keep on with–when the burden of what we carry becomes so heavy, we just can not move on.
Forgiveness is not a forgetfulness. Not about lying that you did not experience something, or that the fact that you felt that way is invalid. It is about fully accepting your past, honouring the things that you have learnt and moving past the hold that the past can have on you so you can confidently walk into your future.
The Weight We Carry
We all carry around what we don’t need, old resentments, disappointments, lost chances, and left-said words. These burdens might not weigh us down today, but over time they warp our stance, impede our pace, and make each new beginning feel draining.
At times, what we cling to is out of fear. We fear that if we release it, we will lose ourselves, or we will end up with nothing. At times, we cling to hurt because it’s something we know, and knowing feels safer than not knowing.
But the reality is, the tighter we grasp, the less room we have for the future.
Why is Letting Go So Difficult?
Letting go is difficult because it makes us face change. Change is not easy. It makes us venture into the unknown without assurance.
There’s also a personal stake in things we cling to. Though something hurt us, we’ve made it part of our narrative. To let it go is to rip out a page we’ve read repeatedly.
But holding on prevents us from moving forward from a moment that is past. And regardless of how often we return, it will not change what happened; it just prevents us from moving forward.
The Freedom of Release
When we release, we make room, room for fresh possibilities, better relationships, and surprise joy. We also lighten the load, reducing the weight ahead.
Letting go could be forgiving a person who never said sorry. It could be leaving a situation that was once necessary but is now poisonous. It could even be forgiving yourself for decisions you wish you’d made otherwise.
The act of release does not destroy the past, but it changes your connection to it. It brings you from being defined by what has occurred to being defined by what you decide to do next.
Steps to Letting Go
- Identify What You’re Understanding
Call it by name. Name it. Whether it is anger, regret, or fear, calling it by name is the beginning of releasing it.
- Understand Why You’ve Held On
Ask yourself: What has holding on cost me? What has it given me?
- Decide to Release It
Letting go is really an option, one you might have to make more than once.
- Fill the Empty Space
Replace the void with something life-enhancing, fresh goals, artistic pursuits, or habits that bring peace.
- Be gentle to yourself.
Surrender is a journey, not a behavior. There are going to be days when you’ll feel like you’ve progressed so much; there are going to be days when you’ll feel like you’ve gone back. Both are part of the journey.
Moving Forward
The loveliness of release is that it doesn’t only shed weight, it invites movement. It lets you take steps you were unable to take because your hands, heart, and mind were taken up.
Looking to the future doesn’t mean you won’t glance backward. It means that when you do glance backward, the past is a page in your book, not the entire book. It means that you can step into tomorrow without yesterday determining your every move.
Conclusion
Moving forward isn’t something you do, though; it’s a moment, a strong decision to no longer let the past control your future. Dr. Camella S. Cooke’s Divine Deliverance is an invitation to make that choice with conviction and trust. It’s an invitation to move beyond what’s keeping you stuck and into the life that awaits you.
Order your copy today and begin your own journey of release. The question is, are you ready to move forward?